Thought Bubble - Good Thing, Bad Thing
VIDEO: 5:50 mins
AUTHOR: Robert Craven
Is it good or is it bad? It's all about how you view the situation. Listen to Robert talking about good thing, bad thing in this video short.
Transcription:
Robert Craven 00:07
Here we go. Good thing. Bad thing. Who knows? Good thing. Bad Thing. Good thing bad thing. Who knows? So I got sent this by Adam Harris. And when I first got it I thought hippie nonsense, there's nothing to it. What is it? Good thing bad thing? Who knows? What does it actually mean? But actually it's hung around the office and I've been thinking about it and I was recently introduced to a story. The story of the stallion so the story of Starling originally comes I think, from Tony Robbins who probably took it from somewhere else, but the story roughly goes, old man has horses. One of his stallion wins a competition. Neighbours come round and go wild on your stallions won the award you've done really, really well. He could good bad thing Who knows? And the next day because the styling has won the award, the styling gets stolen. And the neighbours come around and say oh my god, this is dreadful. The stallion has been stolen. And he goes: Good thing, bad thing. Who knows? They will walk away.
Robert Craven 01:20
Five days later because it's a good looking style in the stallion comes back it's escaped from being stolen and it brings with it some other other stallion. So now he has like five of these gorgeous looking horses, award winning horses. His name has come around and go hey, wonderful, wonderful. Good thing but you've got the idea. The next day his son tries to tame one of the stallions jumps onto the horse drives around on it. What are you doing a horse and falls off breaks a leg? The neighbours come round? Oh my god is dreadful his broken leg. Good thing bad thing? Who knows? You get the picture so his neighbours have kind of given up. And then the next week, the army come through town, conscripting all the young, healthy young men like your son, but of course his son doesn't get conscripted because he's got a broken leg. Good thing, bad thing.
Robert Craven 02:16
So you get the gist of the story. Is it a good thing? Or is it a bad thing? But actually, there is actually a little bit more as you look at it. It's a way of looking at the world because if it's a bad thing, it's a bad thing. I've lost my business. It's dreadful. Nobody lost me. I hate myself. I can't do anything. I've lost a client. I've lost a client worries me what am I going to do? I'm going to die. It's dreadful, dreadful. This is the end of the world as opposed to mentality of good thing bad thing. Who knows, which is saying something good will probably turn up. And even if something amazing happens like you win the new car or you come number one or you win the award, well, maybe it's not so awesome. So we all know that those amazing things. When I have the big house when I have the car when I win the award, they're pretty short lived. So good thing bad thing Who knows? And likewise, which might be tougher for us to comprehend is when something in inverted commas bad happens that actually good thing bad thing who knows because something good ends up coming out of it. And this is a kind of a mentality thing. So let me just give you just off the top of the head a couple of examples. I did a training session we we then stayed in the bar until five o'clock in the morning got totally legless went to bed. And you'd say oh my god, workday. Worst thing could ever done. However dreadful, dreadful. Eight o'clock, I go down to have breakfast, just that thing when you scratch your skin and you can smell the alcohol. And I come across someone I've been trying to sell tea for three years. Okay. Good thing, bad thing. Who knows?
Robert Craven 03:54
Well, I'd have more columns. I've been trying to talk to you for ages. Here's my card. I can't talk to you now. But can we talk that ended up being a contract worth 6 million parents happen to bump into that person having tried to find try to reach them trying to connect and engage with them? You lose a big client cutting garden, who knows? Well, you lose a big client and you sit down and you say okay, so why did we lose and what didn't they like about it? What should we have done differently next time? What can we learn? How are we going to make this happen? So that actually when you then go to your next client or you look at your existing clients, you change the way you do things? You go bust? Oh my god, the business has gone bust. This is dreadful. The worst thing in the world. How can anyone taught me gives me the opportunity to reframe, rethink, re prepare, and start all over again.
Robert Craven 04:47
COVID Same thing, good thing, bad thing. Who knows? Now I'm not saying that COVID is a good thing. I'm not saying that from an I'm just saying that this is about seeing the opportunity and For some things, those opportunities are there almost immediately, you know, some things the the learning takes maybe maybe a couple of years, you know. So the learning from bashing my wife's car in a in a garage in the day was to look behind you properly when you're reversing and I look behind me properly and I'm a better driver as a result of is the benefit to losing a client representing 30% of your business. You know, it takes a lot longer for you to go okay, so I now have learned from him. Anyhow, that's the nub of it. So I'll show you this again. Good thing, bad thing. Who knows and really who does not.